Free ranging...

I'm traveling again.
Life is a maze of roads, one starts where the other ends. No desitation is a final destination. I never seem to stop. I rarely slow down. I'm speeding, over speeding. I'm driven. I follow my ambition. I keep looking for the next goal, then next bend in the road, and the surprise it might bring.

I'm constantly on the road, a hippie of sorts. My thumb is out to catch the free ride. Even when I resit the urge, somehow they find me, they ask if I want to go, if I need a ride, I can't help myself... but yeild.

Even when I refuse, looks like everyone expects me to go. They cheer me on, until I get up and board that ride. And so I'm on the road again, to my next mission. My destination, off to see the world, to find insight. to get inspired and acquire new knowledge. I'm soaking it all up for in a short while I'll have to tell my tale, and these are the pieces of that huge puzzle. These journeys  I make will be the brush strokes on my canvas, the master piece I make for all to adore.

I'm back on the road, never staying very long in any place. 3 days here, 5 there. a week here, and 2 over there. I know my home but I rarely see it. I miss home but I seem to escape it.

 

Give him the finger!

Girls, sometimes it only right and proper that you give that guy the finger. Let me rephrase: Ladies it is OK to give the young man that finger.  Here is why.

When a man decides that they are ready to settle down with you and get married. It is no small thing. Guys today more than ever are quite, loose, randy and hugely irresponsible. They want you but they don’t want the whole of you. They are not ready to commit.

But not every guy is like that. Many are actually good. Yes they struggle. Yes they don’t have it all figured out. And yes, they have imperfections. They don’t think they are the best thing to have happened to you, many think they actually don’t deserve you. They are fully aware of their imperfections, inabilities, and in some cases deep seated insecurities.

Give him the finger!

They also see you. You are the envy of the community. You make them feel complete. You excite them, you rock their world, you give him sound advice. You are the firm shoulder they lean on. You are smart and witty. 

They may also see your other side. The imperfect side. I’ll not elucidate on that side because you know it very well. Even then, the guys have decided to settle with you.

It’s never a simple decision for a guy to get married. We give up alot. We lose friends [especially girl friends – to mean female friends]. We exchange our best friends for you. We leave our parents homes – yes we too have parents who love and think the world about us! We lose our freedoms / rights. We even lose part of our identity. 

And for all this we ask for that finger. Of course with it we are asking for your heart.

But many times, when he’s asked for the heart, hence the finger, the girl suddenly feels sweet. She plays hard to get. She suddenly starts to think of all the others who may also pop the question. She considers the deal for so long that the guy’s deep seated insecurities start to surface... 

Girls, if the stars are aligned for you. Ask yourself the basic questions, the core questions and once you are comfortable with the answers. Go ahead and give him the finger. Don’t wait to have all the answers to ALL the questions. I can promise you won’t have them even if you wait for a lifetime. 

We all settle for the core values.  The rest is left to God and community.

Again I say, Girls, if he meets those core values, it’s OK to give him the finger!